At a minimum, a parenting agreement should describe how the parents plan to meet the children’s needs and manage parental responsibilities regarding:

  • taking care of the children
  • making necessary decisions on the children’s behalf
  • making sure the children spend time with both parents, and
  • meeting the children’s medical, psychological, educational, spiritual, physical, and social

If you already have an agreement in place, or you know just what you need to work on, you can work on just the sections that interest you: (checking items puts them into individual list to work on)

__ Issue 1: Where Our Children Will Live

__ Issue 2: Medical, Dental, and Vision Care

__ Issue 3: Negative Comments or Remarks

__ Issue 4: Consistency in Raising Children

__ Issue 5: Holidays

__ Issue 6: Education

__ Issue 7: Insurance

__ Issue 8: Making Decisions

__ Issue 9: Resolving Disputes

__ Issue 10: Labeling the Custody Arrangement

__ Issue 11: Exchanging Information

__ Issue 12: Child Care

__ Issue 13: Special Occasions and Family Events

__ Issue 14: Vacations

__ Issue 15: Outside Activities

__ Issue 16: Transportation Between Parents’ Homes

__ Issue 17: Improving Transition Times

__ Issue 18: Maintaining Contact

__ Issue 19: Grandparents, Relatives, and Important Friends

__ Issue 20: Psychiatric and Other Mental Health Care

__ Issue 21: Religious Training

__ Issue 22: Surname

__ Issue 23: Treating Each Child as an Individual

__ Issue 24: Separating the Adult Relationship Issues From the Parenting Issues

__ Issue 25: Making Routine Changes

__ Issue 26: Making Big Changes

__ Issue 27: Explaining the Agreement to Your Children

__ Issue 28: Domestic Violence, Child Abuse, and Child Neglect

__ Issue 29: Alcohol or Drug Abuse

__ Issue 30: Undermining the Parent-Child Relationship

__ Issue 31: Denying Access to the Children

__ Issue 32: If Extended Family Members or Close Friends Are Fueling the Dispute

__ Issue 33: Moving

__ Issue 34: When Parenting Styles and Values Differ

__ Issue 35: When a Parent Needs to Develop Parenting Skills

__ Issue 36: When Parents Have New Partners

__ Issue 37: If Our Homes Are Far Apart

__ Issue 38: When Nonrelatives Live in the Home

__ Issue 39: Reinvolving a Parent Who Has Been Absent

__ Issue 40: Driving and Owning a Car, Motorcycle, or Off-Road Vehicle… 166

__ Issue 41: International Travel and Passports

__ Issue 42: Military Service

__ Issue 43: Allowing Underage Marriage